I'm going to try and respond to people, but in a way I feel like I'm hurting them more than helping by letting her "ghost" linger.

I think it's different for everyone, Lenore (that's certainly the impression I've gotten in various conversations.) I admit it was a shock the first time you PM'd me with the "pickamix" screen name but hey, I PM'd first. I think that is settling down a bit.

Yesterday I couldn't bear the thought of snagging Megan's Purple/Green icon, which I've admired for ages; today I was able to do so.

I have certainly found LJ buffyverse fandom to be a welcoming place (I came on board only three years ago) and I hope you will as well.

The Nikki icon she made for you is beyond awesome, btw.