Wow! I am NOT a good person to get advice from, because I have trouble reading other people and/or knowing what will actually be helpful, but sometimes people seem to take an insight I had about myself and run with it, and I think you did that. Congratulations on all your insights on Monday!

On boundaries: With family, personally, I am good at SEEING self vs. others, but not so good at FUNCTIONING by myself, which means I will sometimes make a clear, respectful, self-aware request ... for something I shouldn't be bloody asking for. Different mess than not realize that other people's crap is Not My Crap, which is dismayingly common, but still a mess.