You do not need poison in your life unless there's very, very good reasons to tolerate it. That is all. Thank you. I feel as if I'm supposed to want my aunt in my life but verbal abuse out of the blue? So not something I need in my life.

I'm more of an avoider, but not for any conscious reason. It's just the pattern I fall most easily into. There's a good reason my closest relative is 5 1/2 hours away!