no more Facebook bombs apparently!

[dragonyphoenix]

Actually I had been thinking of her words just this afternoon and had decided to be more careful with my posts in the future.

I just got this response from my aunt Alice:
You completely missed the point of my post - perhaps the post was too vague for you to understand. I didn't mean your posts were INTENDED to offend me (or anyone else). What I asked was that you THINK about what you post in case it COULD offend someone else. Believe it or not, Judy, the "real" birthing experience video is highly offensive to me -- whether or not YOU find it offensive wasn't the point of my post. But never mind, based on your lengthy discussion of the posts you suppose could have offended me, I'm fairly certain you'll never consider anyone else's feelings before you post, so I found a way to not be offended by anything you post in the future: I've unfollowed you, so I never see your posts. Problem solved.

Interestingly, I had just gotten over wincing in anticipation of another nasty post when opening Facebook.

And I know I said next time I'd respond by explaining her patterns of behavior, but right now I really, really don't want to.

Also, I'm not sure what to do with the check for $100 she sent. I sort of feel if I cash it I'm the bitch that upset her and greedily too her money but if I send it back I'm the bitch who returned her check. Either way, I'm sure she'll find a way to be insulted.

When Red Satin Doll and I were discussing the first nasty Christmas post, she said that Aunt Aiice doesn't know me very well. Reading this, I agree. If Alice thinks I don't care about other people, she really does not know me.

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[futterwackens.livejournal.com]

I had an aunt like that. Her name was Betty, She was my aunt by my mothers previous marriage. She did not like me because I was not the child of her brother. The first husband. She would constantly berate me, tell me that I was going to be in jail by the time I was 18. While I was and have always been a law abiding citizen.Her daughter who was literally on crack and steeling and constantly getting arrested could do no wrong. I earned that to make her happy I had to become invisible, meaning I had to be quiet and only answer when she asked me a direct question. Sometimes you can't win for losing.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

Sometimes you can't win for losing. That's my take on it. I honestly think she's just angry - a lot of that going around in my family - and taking it out on me.

She's also following a family pattern. Lots of people in my family have disowned relatives. In fact, Alice didn't talk to my mother for years if not decades.