on the plus side

[dragonyphoenix]

I called Dad last night for Father's Day, and he was working out how I could fit into his home if I need to. I don't believe that will become necessary, but I felt - and still feel - encouraged that he's ready to support me to that extent.

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Oh. Oops!

Sometimes I can't tell how I'm appearing, if I'm seeing too self-centered or not. And today, as part of a massive introspection session, I was reviewing my aunt Alice's comments about me at Yule, where she said I was arrogant and thought I was better than everyone else and strongly implied that I was being big with the obliviousness. So I guess I was in some way expecting everyone to see me that way.

I did get a lot of clarity on family patterns and the limits of healing, but I also realized there are family relationships - between my sister and myself as well as between my aunt and myself - that aren't going to heal. There has to be a willingness to see the problem and to change on both sides and as far as I can tell, neither of them has even that insight much less the willingness.

On the plus side, the relationship that did heal was me and my Dad.