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[dragonyphoenix]

This reminds me how Dad is treated in my family, by his sisters, by my cousins, and by my sister. Possibly even by me in the past. Don't get me wrong; Dad can be really tough to get along with, but if you explain where's he's being unreasonable, he will take it in and change his behavior.
Also, I adore Amy's response to the sanctimonious bitch.

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[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

The woman's attitude is incredibly mind-boggling.

No, "Their loss" doesn't help. It's hit him pretty hard over the years. ;-(

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

My sweetie was terribly estranged from her mother for years, but it simply meant she also had to mourn not just her mother but the loss or lack of a real relationship. She'd deny it (being the stoic type) but it left a hole in her that I don't think can ever be filled.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Oh, ouch.

I had troubles with Dad a while back, to the point where we weren't talking, but my therapist pointed out that I did want to be in contact with him. I'm so glad she did.

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

I know you've done a lot of work on your issues in general and specifically with your dad; I'm very proud of you for that and I know you won't regret that, whatever happens.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

I definitely don't regret therapy. Actually, there were signs of rage when I was a teen. I'm wishing someone had gotten me to a therapist back then!

I'm not at a point where I can see behaviors are motivated by my issues but I don't know how to change my behaviors. All I've got is to meditate regularly and hope that will help over the long term.

[velvetwhip.livejournal.com]

I feel for your Dad. I hope someday he realizes that they're beneath him anyway.


Gabrielle

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Thanks. He's in a hurt / pissed off / vengeful kind of a place. He's taken them out of his will and made sure that I know it.