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[dragonyphoenix]

This reminds me how Dad is treated in my family, by his sisters, by my cousins, and by my sister. Possibly even by me in the past. Don't get me wrong; Dad can be really tough to get along with, but if you explain where's he's being unreasonable, he will take it in and change his behavior.
Also, I adore Amy's response to the sanctimonious bitch.

Comments

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

WOW.

This woman gives Donald Trump a run for his money in the "selfish and self-centered with ZERO self-awareness" department.

WOW.

I can't even.

It makes me sad that your dad has been treated this way by his own family, saying "their loss" probably doesn't help.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

The woman's attitude is incredibly mind-boggling.

No, "Their loss" doesn't help. It's hit him pretty hard over the years. ;-(

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

My sweetie was terribly estranged from her mother for years, but it simply meant she also had to mourn not just her mother but the loss or lack of a real relationship. She'd deny it (being the stoic type) but it left a hole in her that I don't think can ever be filled.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Oh, ouch.

I had troubles with Dad a while back, to the point where we weren't talking, but my therapist pointed out that I did want to be in contact with him. I'm so glad she did.

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

I know you've done a lot of work on your issues in general and specifically with your dad; I'm very proud of you for that and I know you won't regret that, whatever happens.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

I definitely don't regret therapy. Actually, there were signs of rage when I was a teen. I'm wishing someone had gotten me to a therapist back then!

I'm not at a point where I can see behaviors are motivated by my issues but I don't know how to change my behaviors. All I've got is to meditate regularly and hope that will help over the long term.

[velvetwhip.livejournal.com]

I feel for your Dad. I hope someday he realizes that they're beneath him anyway.


Gabrielle

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Thanks. He's in a hurt / pissed off / vengeful kind of a place. He's taken them out of his will and made sure that I know it.

[velvetwhip.livejournal.com]

I love Amy for this. LOVE HER.


Gabrielle

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Yes. So much.

[punch-kicker15.livejournal.com]

Oh, man. I was talking to my husband the other day about someone like this, and the part that infuriates me the most isn't even the mistreatment, it's the blaming the victim for the mistreatment. Good for Amy for nailing that particular dynamic here. Unfortunately I think the letter writer and people like her are too stuck in their own little fantasy worlds to get it.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Yeah, blaming the victim, just horrible. And I agree, even with this input I doubt the woman will get it.

[snogged.livejournal.com]

No insight and no self-awareness.

I think Amy got her reply spot-on.

Sorry to hear your dad's been treated this way.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Thanks. And yep, Amy hit the nail on the head!

[kerkevik-2014.livejournal.com]

Like looking into a mirror of your own family relationships. :-(

kerk

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately yes.