There are people on my mother's side of the family who will not talk to each other.
My fathers family stopped talking to her decades ago because they blamed her (unfairly) for my dad's suicide (WTF?) except for my grandfather. Unfortunately punishing my mom and cutting her off also meant my siblings and I were cut off too. Not fair to my mom, doubly-unfair to us.
I do believe btw that trust has to be earned, but its also possible to be so traumatized early on that it's impossible or very difficult in any situation. I tend to veer between the extremes of trusting too much and being too open, and not trusting enough.
Huh, I hadn't given much thought to their broken group dynamics.
I wasn't conscious of it while I was watching it (but then I barreled through the entire series in three weeks time); but once I "saw" it afterwards I couldn't "unsee" it (re: Ted meta).
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Date: 2013-11-11 09:11 pm (UTC)My fathers family stopped talking to her decades ago because they blamed her (unfairly) for my dad's suicide (WTF?) except for my grandfather. Unfortunately punishing my mom and cutting her off also meant my siblings and I were cut off too. Not fair to my mom, doubly-unfair to us.
I do believe btw that trust has to be earned, but its also possible to be so traumatized early on that it's impossible or very difficult in any situation. I tend to veer between the extremes of trusting too much and being too open, and not trusting enough.
Huh, I hadn't given much thought to their broken group dynamics.
I wasn't conscious of it while I was watching it (but then I barreled through the entire series in three weeks time); but once I "saw" it afterwards I couldn't "unsee" it (re: Ted meta).