I don't argue with anyone. Huh, now I'm wondering if I really don't feel safe enough to argue with anyone.
Well I'm not sure that feeling "safe" with one another is an entirely good thing! the fact that we tend to argue and snipe after 17 years and can't seem to change or fix our dynamic is not at all good IMO.
The jist is supposedly we are able to be angry or frustrated - at each other, at our awful day at work, at life in general etc - and express that to each other and know the other person isn't going to abandon us. Or something. Really I would love to be able to handle conflict better but OTOH I know from my childhood that it could be worse. Maybe that's the problem - my template growing up included violence and abuse so anything has to be better, right?
anyhow , moving on...
that level of obliviousness, I think, calls for some serious personal issues that they would be going through.
And of course part of the dysfunction is that they never do - I think Xander has completely justified The Lie to himself, for instance. they never really are as close again as they were before Becoming, I think.
S7 doesn't really change the dynamic - Buffy, Spike, and Willow have their personal arcs, which are great, but in terms of Buffy & SG dynamics, nothing really has after EP. the disagreements are pushed to the side, and it's understandable- they are in a war zone. And Buffy forgives endlessly, even if she doesn't forget. But there's no time to sort through things with only three episodes to go I guess.
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Date: 2013-11-08 05:30 pm (UTC)Well I'm not sure that feeling "safe" with one another is an entirely good thing! the fact that we tend to argue and snipe after 17 years and can't seem to change or fix our dynamic is not at all good IMO.
The jist is supposedly we are able to be angry or frustrated - at each other, at our awful day at work, at life in general etc - and express that to each other and know the other person isn't going to abandon us. Or something. Really I would love to be able to handle conflict better but OTOH I know from my childhood that it could be worse. Maybe that's the problem - my template growing up included violence and abuse so anything has to be better, right?
anyhow , moving on...
that level of obliviousness, I think, calls for some serious personal issues that they would be going through.
And of course part of the dysfunction is that they never do - I think Xander has completely justified The Lie to himself, for instance. they never really are as close again as they were before Becoming, I think.
S7 doesn't really change the dynamic - Buffy, Spike, and Willow have their personal arcs, which are great, but in terms of Buffy & SG dynamics, nothing really has after EP. the disagreements are pushed to the side, and it's understandable- they are in a war zone. And Buffy forgives endlessly, even if she doesn't forget. But there's no time to sort through things with only three episodes to go I guess.