not sure how else to handle it
Dec. 27th, 2015 01:55 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dragonyphoenixSo I’ve been thinking over this situation with my Aunt Alice and reviewing other times she’s wigged out. She just has no problems lashing out at me. But, she lives in the same town as my sister Jackie and so if I want to see my sister, not to mention my niece and nephew, I should be on at least polite-conversation terms with Alice.
I have had issues with Dad and therefore know that if you point out his behavior he will think about it and try to correct it. Nothing I’ve ever seen from Aunt Alice suggests she’ll do the same.
Also, it’s important to me that Dad and I at least try to have a good relationship. Alice and I have done little more than exchange Christmas presents for decades now. I don’t have a problem having a distant relationship with her.
Aunt Alice can be incredibly thoughtful with gifts. One year she gave me a book that had belonged to my great-grandmother. But she also does one thing my mother did: be very generous and then verbally abusive.
I can’t avoid Alice completely since I want to have a relationship with Jackie and her kids. Since Jackie and Alice are close, and I think Jackie gets along with Alice better than with me, I don’t feel as if I can confide in Jackie (about Alice) because I can’t count on her taking my side. About all I feel I can do is reduce my Facebook presence so I take away an avenue of attack.
I have had issues with Dad and therefore know that if you point out his behavior he will think about it and try to correct it. Nothing I’ve ever seen from Aunt Alice suggests she’ll do the same.
Also, it’s important to me that Dad and I at least try to have a good relationship. Alice and I have done little more than exchange Christmas presents for decades now. I don’t have a problem having a distant relationship with her.
Aunt Alice can be incredibly thoughtful with gifts. One year she gave me a book that had belonged to my great-grandmother. But she also does one thing my mother did: be very generous and then verbally abusive.
I can’t avoid Alice completely since I want to have a relationship with Jackie and her kids. Since Jackie and Alice are close, and I think Jackie gets along with Alice better than with me, I don’t feel as if I can confide in Jackie (about Alice) because I can’t count on her taking my side. About all I feel I can do is reduce my Facebook presence so I take away an avenue of attack.