booooook!

[dragonyphoenix]

I stopped in a used bookstore today and picked up Harlan Ellison's Strange Wine for $1.05. Yay! It's my favorite Ellison collection and I'd lost my copy in the dire mess that was the flooding and moldy basement.

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[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the explanation. That does help me see why I find that phrase so annoying.

[red-satin-doll.livejournal.com]

A little search online shows that there are plenty of studies suggesting that "positive affirmations" work great with people who are already optimistic, or believe the affirmations already - sort of like a quick tune up. For people with low self esteem or who tend to be pessimistic, it can backfire because of the cognitive dissonance that makes depressiin and self-esteem worse; or because another method is more helpful (making lists of what the challenges are and working out how to overcome them.)

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/can-positive-thinking-be-negative/ (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/can-positive-thinking-be-negative/)

And they can be a form of "gaslighting". IMO.

[dragonyphoenix.livejournal.com]

I was gaslighted once. Luckily it was at work and about something that's easily verified so I was able to put a stop to that specific incident. I did eventually have to bring her behavior up to our team leader.